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When my friend and I were invited to a free financial Seminar in Cape Town, South Africa we bought into it. I was very cautious with the fact that it was for free and we both agreed there is a hidden agenda. I told him there is no way someone would fly all over from the USA to South Africa and offer a free Seminar. We knew there is a catch. We attended in any way. …


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A relationship is learning someone till death or break up

We get hurt when our loved ones depart because that course of knowing each has never been finished. They depart while we’re still on page one first paragraph in knowing them. Either by death or just end of the road, a break up.

In as much as our approach in a new relationship is getting to know each other better. We never get to the bottom of it untill we break up or “til death do us part.”

When you become attracted to someone else the most courageous step is approach. …


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Suround yourself with people who are also not like-minded too

It is a good thing to ask advice from those who are ahead of you in your craft. We all know and have heard the phrase, 'surround yourself with like-minded people.’ It means you’ll end up agreeing in everything. No challenge at all. Boring life. Isn’t it?

Imagine you are a doctor spending your whole day in the surgery or office your practice. When you’re off spending another day with other doctors. I mean the only thing you’re talking about every five minutes is medicine and traumatic experiences about your patients. How boring such a life.

I believe it is…


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Benefits of both positive and negative feedback

Two friends have come on my case twice in life. Since then I’ve realised two criticism that either help or you allow one to destroy you. One friend was concerned about errors in my writing and sent a message to let me know of many mistakes in that particular piece. I took that as just as a mere incostructive criticism. She never get to point out where i should take corrective actions. Her feedback was just to destroy what was growing. I never took it personal but promise myself never to expect much from her.

It was then another friend…


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Your opinions are not one size fits all

The problem I personally have with relationship experts, preachers sometimes and motivational speakers is their proverbial sucker punch. It is always safe to say in my house this is how things are, wht we do and it works than to say couples must, should and have to do your ABC tips.

What works for you might not a cup of tea for me. I listen to professed doctors on air to some radio stations on how to have sex. They keep on saying do these and you will last in bed. …


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Life without social media

Long before mobile phones existed we lived. It wasn’t as easy it is now to communicate in as fast as it is with the help of technology. We used to bond without having to be on our pc and smartphone screens.

If by any mistake you forget your mobile phone behind your life for the rest of the day is miserable. You’re on ice age. However, not knowing the value of a thing, person and even the fresh air we breathe we are subject to abuse it.

It’s been almost six months ever since I diactivated…


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Daylight scammers called Trinity still on the run in South Africa

A community of Mossel Bay, KwaNonqaba and surroundings in the Southern Cape popular known as the Garden Route has yet faced another pandemic. This time is the one and only famous daylight robbery, the stokvel and or pyramid schemes kinda. Three men ripped off residents of that particular community for months of their hard earned income.

It is also believed that many have invested and promised a lot of returns on their deposits. One was scammed of R60 000 in return of R342 000 back by April of 2021…


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Science of ripping off people

People are desperate and we are vulnerable to scams. People who scam others all started with good intentions, to empower themselves. There is nothing wrong with that but not at the expense of others.

When I was still active on social media platforms I wouldn’t accept your friend request if you posted pictures of yourself posing in front of your supposedly Lamborghini. I wouldn’t be impressed with you holding cash in front of the big expensive house. …


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Relationships cannot be perfect

It is either one of you already not living a dream that all is well for the last 100 years in partnership. One of you is absolutely cheating if ever since you dated, married and cohabited everything about the two of you is perfect. The thing about what makes relationship strive is like untangling a tangled Christmas tree. It is like fighting all night about why did you ask me if I’m ok or not and still willing to stay together.

If all things are perfect in your relationship one of you is actually cheating. Cheating…


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Photo by Sergey Zolking from UNSPLASH

The only way nowadays to shut people away is to put your headphones on as if you’re listening to something. Even if nothing is on people will see the need to ask for your permission to converse. When your friends including your partner if you are not single anymore ask why sometimes you have a tendency to not answering their calls. One of the words that come up immediately, “Oh I was busy.” We believe you and move on.

Stop bragging about being busy, you were not supposed to be idle in the first place. Work is work for a…

Malibongwe Sithelo

I'm a freelance writer, a runner and a public servant in South Africa. I write about everyday life experiences.

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