A relationship is learning someone till death or break up

We get hurt when our loved ones depart because that course of knowing each has never been finished. They depart while we’re still on page one first paragraph in knowing them. Either by death or just end of the road, a break up.

In as much as our approach in a new relationship is getting to know each other better. We never get to the bottom of it untill we break up or “til death do us part.”

When you become attracted to someone else the most courageous step is approach. It doesn’t stop there you begin to learn someone by means of dating, regular chats and sometimes clean flirting.

Feelings begin to show up and put you under pressure. Your heart starts pumping as if you’re running out of time tomorrow is end of the world. You will never get read a person from cover to cover.

If you’re a man you begin to rehearse the same ice breaker statement. The two of you begin to like each other. All that process is getting to know each other better.

I once approached one lady and she turned me down from the get go. She told me she’s got a boyfriend. I almost said, “you mean the guy you’re still trying to figure who he is?” I withdrew from that because it could have ended badly. The point is everyday you are discovering who your partner is.

When people say we’ve been together for 10, 100 years it might mean we are still learning each other. Relationship is a never ending syllabus. Every day it is updated and you get surprised. It is true you never stop learning.

Relationship someone said is learning someone for 15, 50 or 100 years and never graduate but instead break up. Till death do us part might mean haven’t yet figured out who really your partner is basically.

The person who was perfect in the beginning is not the same you’re dating, married to. The one at the beginning was well versed and articulate for only the presentation. It was his or her time pitch and nail it before someone else take you. You’ll never get on top of the mountain when it comes to learning your partner. Everyday catches you by surprise and off guard. Men accuse women of not knowing exactly what they want and women the same thing.

I'm a freelance writer, a runner and a public servant in South Africa. I write about everyday life experiences.

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