Malibongwe Sithelo
2 min readFeb 11, 2023
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Be Silent And Use Your Words Sparingly

We don’t really have to join yoga classes to free ourselves from all unresolved life challenges. Life is not about faking who you are to fit it. If you are an introvert do not push it to the limit. You were born that way. Having a loud and strong voice doesn’t make you an aggressive person. it is just normal for you to talk that way. People shouldn’t expect you to be the person you were not born to be. Being an extrovert is part of you and you see things like almost everyone else. Transparency is your nature. Loud people can be as silent as Sunday morning. it is only that when they speak you will not miss a word.

“Even a fool is thought to be wise when silent” — Solomon, Bible

Never try to be an orator to make your point clear. Remain calm by listening throughout an argument. Your point will be taken into consideration once everyone’s done talking. The greatest revenge when you go through any break-up and disappointment is remaining silent. It is not an easy thing to do especially if you are not the one wrong. In the eyes and mind of your partner, you are the most selfish person on Earth. It is difficult for anyone to read your mind if you are silent. Everyone would want to confess their sins to you if one of the weapons you use is silence. By that, you liberate yourself from your own insecurities.

Use words when it means to do so. Trying to crack a joke when it’s not your craft to make people laugh is a waste of time. Silence is not allowing people to have control over you. In fact, you are in control of everything. You withhold answers that everyone is eager to hear. It allows you to be in control of your surroundings and environment. Arguing is natural and fighting fair and square is permissible. When you are silent you become so in charge of your emotions. You can be angry and want to kill the misunderstandings but taking a step back brings more ideas to resolve.

Exploding is allowed but use it wisely and when necessary. Putting your foot down sometimes helps to let people know what you stand for. Others will notice when they're crossing the line without you shouting for your voice to be heard. Be silent and use your words sparingly if it means at all. There is going to be a time when you will need to present your case and you won't run out. Attention and respect are earned through your silence when you stand up and pass the message across.

Malibongwe Sithelo

I'm a freelance writer, a runner and a public servant in South Africa. I write about everyday life experiences.