Two friends have come on my case twice in life. Since then I’ve realised two criticism that either help or you allow one to destroy you. One friend was concerned about errors in my writing and sent a message to let me know of many mistakes in that particular piece. I took that as just as a mere incostructive criticism. She never get to point out where i should take corrective actions. Her feedback was just to destroy what was growing. I never took it personal but promise myself never to expect much from her.

It was then another friend and who is still one up to this, OB. When I was still an intern in the newsroom back then he listened until the end of the bulletins. He came to me and said, “dude when you pronounce Grand prix you silence x. Make it sound as Grand pree.” You see the difference? He was straight to the point and I was happy because it meant I was going to make a progress.

I enjoy being corrected of my mistakes and it means I am learning to sharpen my axe. I have learned so many things in life mostly by asking questions and allowing myself to make mistakes.

Learning I once wrote, it is to know something you did not know before. Ask questions you’ll get better in life. It is also doing something you could not do before, learning.

In life we are surrounded by two kinds of people. We are shaped by the company of people we create as our circle and friends we keep. Some of them disappear in the picture by default. Others ditch themselves out. Most of them you ditch out.

In an actual fact you need both of them otherwise you won’t know if you moving forward or backwards. The friends and people who criticize to destroy your ambitions and aspirations are necessary in life.

The friends that are very constructive in their critics are part of your life support system, you need them. Their criticism is like positive feedback about your everyday life aspirations.

We all have gone through criticism in everything that have become second nature. Learning how to drive an automobile or car can be daunting.

However, mastering gears later becomes second nature that you don’t remember the last you changed gears. This is because someone criticized your driving. Most skills become productive when you are criticized. Take it to the heart.




I'm a freelance writer, a runner and a public servant in South Africa. I write about everyday life experiences.

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I'm a freelance writer, a runner and a public servant in South Africa. I write about everyday life experiences.

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