Aug 4, 2020
Never assume your ex hates you
If there is any time that is really challenging is when you are stranded and the only person you can think of is the warm-hearted ex. It is like committing sin inside Heaven. There is only one thing that we all forget, the two of you were once lovebirds. No one else in this world was as good as your ex back then as your partner. For some reason, no one ever revealed you want to wake up seeing him/her suffering in Hell. Just suffering. You don’t want him/her to miss all your success stories after the two of you broke up.
The worst part of it is when you’ve just broken up, you don’t even want to share a planet with that loser. Yeah! What if you are the one that messed up and begged for mercy for the two to be together but it was too late? Well, keep trying you will never know after begging for mercy forgiveness will be at your doorstep. When you see your ex being friends and praised by the same circle of friends you have you get annoyed sometimes. On the other hand, you wish they can as well go and advocate if you are the one who messed up.
I have realized you can kiss goodbye and when it’s over it’s over my friend. I am not really too sure about burning the bridges behind. That works for some and becomes a problem for your future if maybe you don’t burn them. Because you keep on referring to your ex in the new relationship. Your ex though is not the new enemy. Sometimes, it is only bitterness that’s overwhelming. This person failed to understand how much you have invested in the relationship. He/she has taken you for granted and for a ride. Remember, no one knew things will turn up that way. It is also not easy to just give up and accept defeat. You also want to make time so that he can see how much you loved him.
The challenge is when you are in the middle of nowhere, and the only person that you know very well will connect with your heart is that guy. That woman, that left or you’ve left, dumped, or being dumped. Who cares. After all, there was a break-up. Hey, both of you are only humans. Cry for help. Swallow your pride, dial that idiot again, and see how sweet you’re still missing. It’s a threat to your new life if you’ve already moved on because I am not going to be ok about it period. Saved it. Hold the excitement and just say a stranger came.
Almost every person I’ve ever dated is sweet and is very warm-hearted. I was broke to the core and had no money for electricity tokens, fuel, and basic needs, and the month had just begun. There I was texting my ex. She used to ignore my texts in the past and I don’t remember her replying to any unless she was the one who initiated the conversation. I knew I didn’t even stand a chance even if I was trying the love back thing. But she hasn’t really changed who she was except that we broke up and might have been a strain to her back then. I asked for a certain amount of money to cover all the costs. Deep down I felt she will reply to this text but took forever. Eventually, she replied and asked me to repeat myself. I did. Surprisingly, the question ‘when did you need this money?’ pops in our chat.
She came on the rescue when I needed her the most yet again. But with no strings attached. She was just helping. I realized from that day, never send assume that your ex hates you. You may not drink in the same cup anymore but you are not automatic total strangers. Treat each other as humans who tried something and never worked out. It doesn’t always mean one is interested, although that might also awaken the dead horses. Be on guard. Make sure you don’t share that information at home. Just ask.
