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Social media platforms are designed to be addictive. Be warned

Seeking for validation is a syndrome of people who look fine. Depression starts when you try so hard living a dream but not yours. I was talking to a friend recently that pressure is on for some celebrities that they have to hire a beautiful house, expensive car, and buy/hire clothes to just look affording even if they haven’t yet made a lot of money.

I have realized that indeed social media is now designed to be very addictive. Having listened to so many people and watch videos of some people who warn us from that addiction, I’m on rehab. I started shutting down all social media engagement a month or two ago. I decided to focus on myself.

People earn a living by making a post and get likes as many as they can get. It is a challenge nowadays if you are working for marketing and you are not on social media. The damage it causes is when you realized you have spent more than four hours scrolling other people’s statuses. You make it worse when you sort of put things in order in the house to take pictures so that you look happy and working hard. I was an addict of the latter. Facebook for example nowadays, sends you an email or notification that some of your friends have just posted something. You get so very curios to go view and boom nothing much.

Most people are not what they look like in those pictures. Others take it seriously if their lives are not making any progress yet most friends we don’t even know personally are posting about their successful life. When you decide to make your own just to fit in and look affording and successful, that is not your life you are posting. It is someone else’s. It is so hard to live someone else's life. Because while you are sleeping at night you don’t know what they are doing.

I have finally decided to deactivate my Facebook account permanently. If I open one it will be business or work-related demands. It was addictive and it was shortening my mobile phone battery life. Have you noticed that you spend most of the time taking the best pictures, crop them, and make them look perfect just to get more likes when you post them?

The fact remains long before social media existed we lived, loved, and were being loved. We laughed without sending laughing emojis. It was genuine. Yes, it takes forever to receive letters via post office but still google and other platforms have made it easier to get your stuff instantly delivered to your e-mail. I started to slowly quit social media. It didn’t just happen overnight. I remember when I bought the smartphone a year or two ago, I made sure to mute the notifications. I realized I am still addicted because I would still go and check out if I haven’t earned any likes, got inbox perhaps. I then diactivated Instagram. Twitter is not even active. I only joined Instagram because I was involved in advertising campaigns in the past.

I am not protesting you quit, it was just my own decision. It might not be the same way for you. You might not be addicted to social media at all. I cannot make my weaknesses yours. It is just my story that can help even to minimize your time spent on those sites. The fear and feeling of missing out ignite. The bottom line, when you quit you’ll be realized you haven’t missed much out there. The same friends you knew in real life are still the best circle than those you’ve never met.

Indeed, Facebook and other social media platforms make it easier to be connected faster than if you were to dial and only to be on voicemail. We can socialize with friends overseas as if they’re here but that’s not the only way. Just switch off when you are done! That’s not easy right? No, not at all.



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