There is always going to be time for crisis and chaos in your life, be calm.

When I was still young I used to be anxious about almost everything. If in any way things don’t go my way or as promised I’d be upset without considering the possibility of taking any step back. A step to analyze the whole thing. Most of the time I’ve realized that not every time people sabotaged you to failure. I would just go to a store and patience was not in my vocabulary. I would look for anything wrong in the order and find it appropriate to complain. Do you know that attitude of “I want to see your manager?” That was me.

I remember one time, I had to meet a lady that we were intentionally going to be in a relationship. She arrived a bit late because she lost direction. I happened to give her the street that was one way up as supposed to have given her a different one. When she arrived I was so furious that I used words inappropriately. I said, “you know I am not impressed with you, I have been waiting so long.” See I was so very selfish and inconsiderate. We managed to talk and a y later she told me this ain't gonna work. Wow, there I was again unimpressed. We eventually became just friends and we are still friends up to this day. Impossible right? Yeah, we are.

One time I was driving with some of my family members. Three at the back and one front with me. We had a smash over our window back passengers. Because we were at the traffic lights we couldn’t drive but the guy ahead of me drove off and I moved quickly. We survived that attempted hijack only because I kept focused on the road knowing some thugs are trying to hijack us. I remained calm as I drove faster because it wasn’t the other four people who would have lost hope and surrendered. I had to watch all the incoming cars and those who had the right of way, trying to save other people as well.

If your relationship is in shaking moments, shouting at each other is not going to help. One can talk louder, give him/her a chance but not over each other. Some situations are uncontrollable. I understand. You know when someone finds the two of you shouting and arguing on top of each others’ voices, he sees two fools. But when one is talking we can easily assume, even if the wrong one is the quiet one. Do you remember one saying in the Bible, “even a fool when is silent is considered to be wise.’ When he opens his mouth all the doubts removed. You don’t have to prove a point that you are right all the time. Just remain calm at least you still have your temper the other person has lost it already.

I only understood that when you are angry avoid addressing anything. When you are excited avoid making any decision as yet. Not unless that demands you to make one. Otherwise, you can always tell your manager, you need to think about it. Use words like, ‘sounds good.” Let me register this offer into my mind as it will require more changes in my life. Recently, I was driving in a foggy mountain as you might know Cape Town, Western Cape has mountains as high as Table Mountain. It was Sir Lowry’s Pass. Foggy and could only see in front of me. One passenger with me and I realized she was in a panic. I drove slowly and relaxed so that she doesn’t lose hope. I became so calm even though I could see the road properly. We finally reached the r side of the mountain, downhill. A relief.

Now that we are facing a global pandemic, some experts say it's here to stay. Therefore, we need to stay home, stay calm, and avoid anything until a proper vaccine is found. Shouting at the government is not going to take the pandemic away. Working with the authorities, scientists and above everyone else, the health workers, doctors might flatten the pandemic. Confront your fears if the only thing making you anxious is the fear of the unknown.