You don’t have to avoid negative people
I think nowadays we have to get away with certain philosophies. Life is for real, yes we learn through experience. We have to change this long time subjects like time management and “stay away from negative people”, sort of connotations. The problem I had with social networks was only myself. I couldn’t control myself as to how much time I should spend online. In fact, I had no strategy as to when should I block and read all inboxes, walls, and notifications. Yes, I know there are apps to control all of that bombardment. Still, the problem was me, not managing myself. Lack of discipline. I will spend hours trying to catch up with WhatsApp conversations. The only thing I had control over was WhatsApp Groups. I could just easily block, leave the group instantly. I took a break and minimized my time in any kind of online networks. You can always change lanes to allow the negative to have their desired right of way too. Listening without rehearsing answers might be a solution in giving negative people a chance to ask for your opinion.
As a teenager, you think you’ve got all the time in the world. You can easily move from one relationship to another if one seems to be not working. No bills to worry about the parents will take care. You reach 30 and you are “like oh my, I am 30!” All of a sudden age is not just a number especially if you are not even closer to where you could have been five years ago. Motivational speakers are telling you another story that “it’s never too late”. Boy, the clock is ticking irrespective of positive thinking about your age. The problem was not lacking in managing your time, it was the CEO of your own life, yourself.
Either way, your time will get wasted and gone by just being amazed by a certain piece of art as you walk on the street. It is like money, you will lose it in anyhow and what’s left is you finding another way to make more and manage it. When people say, “stay away from negative people”, I really don’t take such advise easily. Manage what comes to your mind, how you react and digest everything that’s being said and done. You will surely diagnose negative comments and weigh it up how you react. Learning is having both negative and positive people around you.
What if the negative person is your son, daughter, brother, mother and your spouse? Are you going to cut them off your life? Well, you may its easy but understand at first some of them were not always like that, life experience might have caused some to become negative. You will have negative people at your workplace, home at your club then you might as well create your own world. Stay away from planet Earth completely.
“you will always have poor among you”… That was Jesus, in the Bible.
“You will always have negative people around you”.
Sometimes negative comments just pop up even from you and you don’t recognize it immediately. All we need to do is to manage ourselves. How we react in all circumstances and people around us. After all, even in Heaven, you are not going alone, if there is a place like that in whatsoever. It is self-management that we ought to look after, our environment and take charge of ourselves. We cannot control what comes in our minds, ears, and hearts. However, we can control what comes out. The words we release whether you are such a positive person or negative will make an impact. It will break or build someone.
We can be selective in watching TV, reading newspapers and listening on the radio but to say we shouldn’t at all is just a myth when I hear people advise. One will advocate, “don’t watch TV, only listen to positive messages, avoid the news, no sport, read books. The thing is I have to control myself even if I have to abandon some of the above. I can’t read positive books audios, a good program on TV the whole day. In as much as life balance, we strive for doesn’t exist, we can manage our behaviours, selective on what we watch and time we spend. We differ in our daily activities.
It’s good advice, I love it too “surround yourself with good positive people all the time”. Yeah, “Go and conquer the world”. Perfect. But, if you avoid negative people don’t you think that’s being negative too? I am just asking. You will conquer the world when you can easily identify what’s negative and find your way to react. I am not saying you should look for negative people to see if you can take it, how strong you are, no. Imagine every day you are with positive people who tell you to take it easy when you lose your child, daughter being gang-raped, cousin suffering from cancer. You have just lost your job. It is not to say, be negative but it is useless to tell me how to take, I must be a man yet you’ve never gone through in any of the above. Positive thinking at this stage is a hell of a load on its own.
Negative people like I’ve said they'll always be there. Maybe you will find a good skill in helping them stop being negative. You will set a good example by just being in control of your emotions, but that depends on how you handle yourself when you identify such. Learn to manage yourself.
